September 11, 2015

On Grandparents Day, will you call, text or write?

Congress designated the first Sunday after Labor Day as National Grandparents Day back in 1978. Jimmy Carter, who was president at the time, spoke about the importance of grandparents, praising them for their “sacrifices that produced much of the progress and comfort we enjoy today.”

With the day coming up this Sunday, it’s a good time to look at how often and by what means Americans keep in touch with the eldest members of their families.

Keeping in Touch with Grandparents

Among U.S. adults who have at least one living grandparent, 64% say they are in touch with grandparents at least on a monthly basis, including 36% who say they keep in touch with their grandparents at least monthly (but not weekly) and 28% who do so weekly or daily, according to a 2014 Pew Research Center survey. But some adults rarely communicate with their grandparents: 35% of adults with a living grandparent say they communicate less often than monthly, including 2% who say they are never in contact with their grandparents.

Phone calls are the most popular mode of communication between adult grandchildren and their grandparents. About nine-in-ten (92%) of those who are in contact with their grandparents at least monthly say they use the phone. Still, about a third (32%) rely on at least one of the newer forms of technology such as text messages, social media or email.

One-in-five adults who are in touch with a grandparent at least monthly opt for texting their grandparents; about one-in-six (16%) cite using social media sites, like Facebook or Twitter; and 12% say they keep in touch with their grandparents via email.

While many adults rely on technology to stay in touch with their grandparents, pen and paper are not completely obsolete. In fact, the share of adults (12%) who typically communicate with their grandparents by writing a letter is equal to the share that stay in touch through emails.

Grandparents report more frequent contact with their grandchildren than grandchildren do with their grandparents. Some 20% of grandparents with at least one grandchild of any age (with whom they do not live) say they communicate with their grandchildren at least every day, while 41% say they do so weekly.

Although older Americans tend to adopt technology later than younger adults, grandparents and grandchildren report using similar forms of communication to stay in touch. About eight-in-ten (79%) American grandparents who are in touch with their grandchildren of any age at least once a month say they keep in touch with their grandchildren via phone calls. Text messages are used by a quarter of grandparents who communicate with their grandchildren of any age at least monthly, while 16% use email and 13% connect on social media.

Topics: Digital Media, Family and Relationships

  1. Photo of Monica Anderson

    is a research associate focusing on internet, science and technology at Pew Research Center.


  1. Jane1 year ago

    I have 9 grandchildren. I didn’t hear from any of them on Labor Day. But, 2 of them called me on my birthday. Don’t feel bad, I didn’t know there was a Grandparents day. So, probably most Grandchildren didn’t know either. I almost hate to admit this but what I see out of the young adults is “me,me,me” I think it’s the decline of Christianity with it’s “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”–the golden rule.
    This decline in morality is politically driven, every aspect of our lives is political. Even if you “don’t like politics” as many say, they are affected by it, all around. So, you should pay attention, at least you can maybe change the course of things.

  2. Patricia M.Buckley1 year ago

    Can hardly believe that I missed my fav holiday this year! Must be too busy for my own good! As we have oft been told, the grandchildren are our blessings and they are our joy!

  3. R. Shack1 year ago

    Call, text or write my grandparents? For some, it’s not an issue of comfort with technology. Our grandparents have all passed, and we’re not grandparents ourselves. The article completely overlooked us.

  4. Deanna Quillen1 year ago

    Well, it’s 4:30 pm on Grandparents Day 2015. No calls as per previous years, no card…I spend my time (being legally blind) teaching 1st graders how to read. Although I am not in the same city as they are, they could call or even-mail, but they don’t….it hurts like crazy. I am writing through my tears. I haven’t seen 1 set of grandchildren in 8 years. I saw the other 2 off and on but now they have other things on their mind….I don’t know what happened to that generation…I think technology became their family. I have so much to offer, advice, crochet, cooking, insight into the importance of building a strong foundation for the rest of their lives….Mother’s Day and Father’s Day get such attention, but they wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for us….